Be kind one to another

I run into members of our previous church from time to time, in various places. For the most part, the encounters are friendly or at the very least, polite. Unfortunately I have had two not so friendly encounters recently, one of them with a person who was once a very close friend of ours. It totally baffles me how people can justify being rude to someone, simply because that person no longer subscribes to the same beliefs. In all fairness, I chose to distance myself from a lot of people from the church,  for my own emotional and mental health. However, is that a reason for someone to be rude?  It's as if I am contaminated with non Fundy cooties. If some of those people felt slighted or hurt by me distancing myself, they could have come to me and asked me what was wrong. Out of all the dozens of people who claimed to be my friend, only one person dared approach me and ask me if I was okay. It never ceases to amaze me how people who can spout off Bible verses on demand, don't put them into practice. Well let me back track a little. They're very kind to those they feel are worthy of their kindness, those with the right last name and title. The inner circle, the elite, of which I am not, now nor have I ever have been. That's something I noticed and loathed for many years when we were in Fundy land. For the most part, it doesn't really bother me as I have left that world behind but I still run into it occasionally and it reignites that flame again. Sometimes I wonder if it's my fault, because I removed myself from those relationships but I was in a very dark place and didn't want to talk about it with anyone, and I still don't, at least certain aspects. Still it would have been nice if someone would have at least pretended to care. Maybe it's a case of being careful what you wish for.