Bent but not broken

I read a Facebook post from a young lady we knew from our former church (she and her family left the church before we did) that was extremely disturbing. Long story short, when she was at "Christian " college, she was in an unhealthy relationship with a young man that manipulated her into performing sexual acts.  Because of the extremely conservative environment in which she was raised and the equally conservative environment of the college, she was terrified to speak up. She explained it as having a "Scarlet Letter " attached to you whenever you messed up, with regards to the judgement and shame. This is a very lovely young lady, beautiful,smart and talented. To say I was shocked when I read that, is an understatement. I think my mouth was hanging open. She finally found the courage to break free of the relationship after a couple of years and is sharing her story with the hope that she can help others in the same situation. While I'm upset about what happened ...

I run into members of our previous church from time to time, in various places. For the most part, the encounters are friendly or at the very least, polite. Unfortunately I have had two not so friendly encounters recently, one of them with a person who was once a very close friend of ours. It totally baffles me how people can justify being rude to someone, simply because that person no longer subscribes to the same beliefs. In all fairness, I chose to distance myself from a lot of people from the church,  for my own emotional and mental health. However, is that a reason for someone to be rude?  It's as if I am contaminated with non Fundy cooties. If some of those people felt slighted or hurt by me distancing myself, they could have come to me and asked me what was wrong. Out of all the dozens of people who claimed to be my friend, only one person dared approach me and ask me if I was okay. It never ceases to amaze me how people who can spout off Bible verses on demand, don't p...